No, I was mad at society. Andy had the courage to come out to a hateful world at a relatively young age. He was supposed to live three-quarters of his life as his authentic self. Instead, because cancer cut his life short, he had less than a quarter. Some people have even less time than that. Even with a supportive, progressive family, hate had kept Andy inside himself for what turned out to be the majority of his life. None of us know how long we have, but we do have a choice in whether we love or hate. And every day that we rob people of the ability to live their lives to the fullest, we are undermining the most precious gift we are given as humans.– Tomorrow Will Be Different
Summary and Thoughts
Sarah McBride is on a mission to fight for transgender rights around the world. But before she was a prominent activist, and before she became the first transgender person to speak at the Democratic National Convention in 2016, she was a teenager struggling with her identity.
With emotional depth and unparalleled honesty, Sarah shares her personal struggle with gender identity, coming out to her supportive but distraught parents, and finding her way as a woman. She inspires readers with her barrier-breaking political journey that took her, in just four years, from a frightened, closeted college student to one of the nation’s most prominent transgender activists walking the halls of the White House, passing laws, and addressing the country in the midst of a heated presidential election. She also details the heartbreaking romance with her first love and future husband Andy, a trans man and activist, who passed away from cancer in 2014 just days after they were married.
Sarah McBride’s memoir is a moving and optimistic story of trans advocacy and belief in change, evidenced through her political work and endurance during deeply emotionally trying times. Though I found the first half of McBride’s book to be a bit thin on memorable content and overly dependent on her deep love and belief in the political system, during the second half, McBride dives deeper into her own vulnerabilities and fears, merging the political with the personal with skill. While the book is clearly meant to announce her arrival (and honestly, experience) into a political career, I really enjoyed her story and genuinely came to like her voice. Moreover, there are a plethora of wonderful excerpts on trans advocacy worth highlighting, revealing McBride’s fierce devotion to equality throughout her life. Though I don’t predict this will be one of my favorite reads of 2020, I’m glad to have read this memoir and will remember many key phrases from the text long into the future.
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